At Kids First, we acknowledge that many of the children we support have siblings and that having a sibling with additional needs can be challenging for them. As occupational therapists, we understand the importance of providing an approach that ensures that people with additional needs and their families get the support they need.
Kids can be very resilient beings, and also have protective intuition to not let us know when they are worried or anxious about something so as to not worry parents. It is important, though, to make sure siblings of children with additional needs are being closely monitored and supported accordingly, as they may be holding back from speaking up as to not cause more issues for parents.
This is not applicable to all families or siblings, however we thought it might be helpful to some families within our KFOT community, and have therefore included some information. And of course, every child is unique so it is best to raise any concerns you may have for a sibling with your OT and they can offer individualised support and recommendations that best fits your family situation and dynamic.
Siblings of kids with additional needs may be confused about their feelings, for example, as they may feel protective over their siblings but also feel resentment or sorrow about what is happening around them. Siblings of kids with additional needs may feel left out (due to reduced quality time with parents), feel that they are different (for example, difficulties having friends over) and may experience difficulties developing a relationship with their sibling.
It is important to be mindful of possible signs that your child is experiencing challenges. These can include:
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Withdrawal, both physically and emotionally
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Behavioural difficulties as a way to gain attention
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Being the ‘good child’ or people pleaser and putting other people’s needs before their own
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Social difficulties which may indicate feeling isolated from their peers
There are many strategies that can support siblings of children with additional needs. You can express your concerns with health professionals to determine the best support. Below are some strategies that may help your child:
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Prioritise 1:1 time for the sibling with parent(s) so that their emotional cup can be filled. Maintaining this connection can also foster a safe relationship where the sibling can safely and comfortably express their feelings, concerns or challenges and you can problem-solve together.
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Encouraging siblings to meet with a school counsellor or be referred to a psychologist via Mental Health Plan.
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Talking with health professionals (such as occupational therapists) about your concerns. They can invite the involvement of siblings into sessions or provide education about the disability.
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Health professionals can help families to plan for the future with the needs of all children considered.
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Siblings can access support through Siblings Australia (link:https://siblingsaustralia.org.au/services/sibsupport/)